Grief is an emotion that is the natural response to a loss. But this simple definition doesn’t really describe what grief is, how it feels, and in my mind, how it changes over time. I believe we always carry grief with us, but it’s not always a heavy burden. Sometimes it feels like a bag of rocks we are dragging along with us, sometimes it’s shrouded over us like a wet blanket, and sometimes we are carry it tucked in the back pocket of our jeans.
I believe writing about our grief can help us understand our loss, and live with the loss.
“As long as I kept moving, my grief streamed out behind me like a swimmer’s long hair in water. I knew the weight was there, but it didn’t touch me. Only when I stopped did the slick, dark stuff of it come floating around my face, catching my arms and throat till I began to drown. So I just didn’t stop.”
~Barbara Kingsolver, The Poisonwood Bible
What is grief to you?