The 5 Stages of Grief Over my Shoes

skechersAt the end of January I  bought my silver- leather-bedazzled Skechers from  I couldn’t wait for them to arrive and once they did I immediately put them on, took a photograph and posted it to Instagram: “sparkly new #shoes !” I wrote.

Oh how I loved those shoes.  They were sporty and comfortable and they matched everything.  I could walk in them.  To the grocery store, to the bank, the post office.  The perfect travel shoe– easy to slip on and off through the security line– I wore them to Seattle. I could wear them with socks, with tights, and even with bare feet.  The memory foam insert added a little bounce to my step.  They made me happy.

And then one day, less than two months later, they broke.

skecher shoe broken

Stage 1: Denial

For days they lay under the coffee table as if they were just waiting for me to put them on.  I was in denial.


My fancy Josef Siebel shoes

Eventually I tossed them into the bottom of the closet, while I struggled every time I got dressed trying to decide which pair of shoes to wear.  Sure, I had a nice pair of Josef Siebels that were comfortable to walk in, but they were kinda fancy.  Yeah, I had a pair of good running shoes, but they were kinda boring.  And I had a pair of Keds, but they were kinda worn out.

My roommate suggested that I contact Skechers. “I’m sure they’ll send you a replacement pair,” she said.  But I was waiting for the shoes to spontaneously repair themselves. As if.

Finally, I tweeted a picture of them @SkechersUSA “love my new shoes. Sad they’re broken already” I wrote.

@SkechersUSA replied ” Contact our customer service team about this! 800-746-3411 between the hours of 8AM-5PM PST, M-F. 🙂 ”

And still it took me a few more days to pick up the phone.

I was still in denial.

Stage 2: Anger

The conversation went like your typical call to a customer service call center would go. Me, explaining that my two-month old shoes had broken.  Dave, explaining that the model I’d bought was no longer available, that if I were to send in the shoe they would evaluate it to see if it is defective and if they determine it is defective they could send me a “comparable shoe.”  Or I could call Zappos, he said, adding that they have a very generous return policy.

I was polite, but the anger had started to settle in. I didn’t WANT to RETURN the shoe. I didn’t WANT a “comparable shoe” I wanted MY BEDAZZELED SHOE.  The one that had traveled with me to Seattle. The one that went with EVERYTHING.  The one that was cute and sporty and I could walk in.  The one that was going to be my spring fling, my summer romance! The one that was no longer available. 


Stage 3: Bargaining

Email to Zappos:

I love my new Skechers, they are the color I’ve been looking for, they are comfortable, they have sparkly things… but they broke already. Here’s a picture:

which I tweeted and Skechers told me to call their customer service, who told me to contact you.

But here’s the thing. I don’t want to “return” them because you can’t replace them, nor can Skechers (they no longer carry them) so the best it seems anyone can do is offer me “something comparable” (which Skechers will do once I send them in and they “evaluate” them to determine that they are defective.)

There is nothing in Skechers’ current line that is “comparable”. I do not want to return the shoes. I want them repaired and feel like a $60 pair of shoes should have lasted longer than 2 months of lite wear.

So I’m wondering what–if anything– you can do for me.

Best, Jennifer Simpson

And so the negotiations began.  A reply from the Zappos Customer Service Team, specifically from Christian, “a shoe obsessed fairy of Zapponia,” (I’m not kidding) who told me they would issue a credit, that I didn’t need to return the shoe, that I was “welcome to donate it, trash it, turn it into an art project….”

So much for bargaining.

Stage 4: Depression

So what if I got my 60 bucks back.  I still couldn’t wear my shoes.

And I didn’t even get a good fight in with They just caved.  Issued a credit. And they were even cheerful about it.

I’ll never leave the house again.

I have no shoes to wear.

Life is SO unfair.

I miss my shoes.

My beautiful, bedazzled shoes.

Stage 5: Acceptance

Well, I had to go out yesterday.  I put on my tennis shoes.  There was a little bounce in my step.  And today, I googled shoe repair shops. There’s one about a mile from my house.  Maybe I’ll put on my tennis shoes and walk over there.

Or maybe I’ll go to I have $60 dollars to spend!

About Jennifer Simpson

Writer, marketing consultant, community builder and teacher. Director of DimeStories International, where authors share their 3-minute stories at open mic events and online. Publisher and editor of the I WRITE BECAUSE project. Find out more at
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